It has been 3 years since that lousy Thursday night when Randy played his very last game of volleyball and then left us. How can time fly by so quickly? And why is it that the good guys leave early? There are many questions and just a big void instead of good answers.
Three years ago I wrote:
Now that Randy is no longer among us and can brighten up the day, we all have to take our responsibility to be a bit more easy-going, to smile more often and to laugh with friends, to laugh at ourselves and others (in a kind, compassionate way) when we do silly things, just like Randy did. The best way to remember Randy is to be a bit more like Randy: caring, easy-going, smiling, and laughing.
So have I done that this year? Not as much as I could or should have …. However I do not take myself as seriously as I did before and I do laugh quite a bit. I had a great week in Canada in November when I took the time to catch up with many of my old friends. That felt great.
What I have done lately is that I have hung that armless teddy bear on my Christmas tree. He hangs there every year and reminds me that we should not strive for “perfection” but that we are all good enough as we are (thanks Randy & Shauna for that thoughtful gift). When I cook a big Sunday dinner, I look outside to see if it will rain. And it often does, which makes me think that Randy is up there salivating over Swedish meatballs or Roast chicken :-) He really knew how to appreciate food!
So I hereby renew my quest to be more caring, more easy-going and to give people the benefit of the doubt. And to laugh at myself when I do stupid silly things… which is when laughter is really needed. Thanks for the inspiration Randy – and for drooling over my cooking!
